We met three years ago at a biology conference in New York, and the drinks afterward changed everything. Oscar followed Jake into the startup scene — events together every day, long runs every weekend — and we learned long distance the hard way: Bronx to Brooklyn, then a year across the country in eastern Washington, until Oscar moved home to Oakland and Jake followed. Now we're getting married where we landed. Everything you'll need is here: where to be, when, and how to make a weekend of it.

The look: garden aristocratic — linen, florals, something you could lounge on a lawn in. And a rumor for after dark: when the dancing starts, everyone may be asked to arrive as a bride or a groom. Details to follow.

Need alterations? See Zoltan at Advanced European Tailoring in Berkeley — tell him Jake & Oscar sent you. He'll have you sorted before Saturday.

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The greatest gift is you on the dance floor. But for those who've asked, we've put together a few things — and a fund for the honeymoon we've been dreaming about.